A View Through a Half-Open Closet Door...
"Look at all this rainbow crap. When did we turn from a political movement
into a niche market?"
-- Mo, "Dykes to Watch Out For"
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So, here it is... deeply buried in the Fox Mountain site, Stef's
Closet. The placement is half-accidental, half not. When I first
started the Kitsuneyama site, I came up with the "slope" thing as an
organizational strategy, and built the site around Japanese, Foxes, and Music.
The West Slope got filled in later with the photos. So far so
good. The problem came when I had stuff that fit into none of those
four categories, but that I still wanted to stick on the site. Enter
the Fox Den, for all my personal baggage, which this is admittedly part of.
But I can't help but feel some lingering guilt over the placement,
buried way down in the depths of the site. Maybe when I come out
completely, I'll reorganize and link this part of the site right up on the
main page.
For now, however, what I've got here is a purely subjective look at one guy's experiences in the closet, along with some stuff that's gradually helping him open the door a bit at a time. |
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Personal Stuff...
Some
thoughts about coming out...
Symbols
and icons - some random musings...
Some Warm and Friendly Links...
The Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay Alliance at NAU :
Northern Arizona University's student-run advocacy organization. I only just
made contact with them in January; I wish I'd done it sooner. This is a very
warm, welcoming, active group. Read more about 'em.
The Androgyny
RAQ -- Raphael Carter's brilliant set of pages
on androgyny issues. Includes short essays on terminology, labels,
etiquette, and relabeling bathrooms. In addition, the essay on Emma
Bull's novel Bone Dance has some valuable insights on breaking out
of dualistic thinking.
Alison Bechdel's "Dykes to Watch Out For", online
archive -- There are usually about 50 or so strips
in the archive, just enough to whet one's appetite for more. This is one
of the best comic strips going, in my opinion. As far as her offline collections,
I especially recommend The Indelible Alison Bechdel, which
has not only a hefty dose of DTWOF, but also has a lot of Alison's
own explanatory notes, plus some other cartoons she's done, such as her own
coming-out story in comic form. That story alone is worth the price of admission,
and that plus the "True Confessions" story will save you enough in therapist's
fees to pay for the book.
"Doonesbury", online archive -- Okay, okay, yes, Garry
Trudeau is mainstream and all, but his strips on Mark's outing really mean
a lot to me. There's
the
first realization,
the
panic,
the
support from old college friends, and of course, the infamous
"field-testing"
line... Then there's
"breaking
the news to mom", and
parental
denial,
the
isolation... and the fun times that
faulty
gaydar produces... (By the way, the archives is searchable by character,
date, topic, whatever... The links I gave are to a few specific strips,
but Trudeau's been dealing with gay issues since the mid-seventies. Pull
up the search engine and see what I mean...)
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. This page last updated August 20th, 1999